Man gives girlfriend spreadsheet of costs after paying for romantic getaway
The woman asked social media for advice on whether she
was wrong to feel "hurt" by her boyfriend’s actions.
A woman was left stunned after returning home from her first romantic weekend away with her boyfriend and was presented with a spreadsheet of everything she owed him.
Blindsided by his actions, the woman took to social media to ask readers on Reddit if she was wrong to feel “hurt” by her significant other’s actions.
The woman explains that ever since they made their romance official, she has always insisted on splitting the bill on dates – something she says worked out in their favour considering they both earned "decent salaries". But, she admits that this latest move has highlighted some “red flags”.
The first red flag came moments after they booked the trip. The date was set a few months in the future and the woman admits her boyfriend asked her "but what if we break up before the trip?" The woman explains that the comment was a "huge mood killer given we are in the honeymoon phase of our relationship". She explained to him that since it’s just an overnight trip, they could cancel it or she would just take a friend instead.
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A few days later, she spotted a restaurant she wanted to visit during their holiday, to which her boyfriend responded that it was "very nice but super expensive as well" and suggested they ordered takeaways instead.
She then explains that her boyfriend sent her a message that he had "broken down the cost of the weekend" so he could book the Airbnb, transport tickets, and tickets to the tourist attraction.
"He’d attached a spreadsheet with our names in it, literally breaking down the cost of everything to the cent, with the final add up of everything telling me I owed him $167.99,” the woman says. "I’m not tight with money at all, and would happily have just given him $200 to cover my share of the weekend (or booked some things each and let it all balance out) without the need to quibble over minor costs like this."
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She adds that her boyfriend’s pedantic ways of handling money "ruined the vibe of the weekend". She explains that "I’m his new girlfriend going on a romantic weekend away, not a client to send an invoice outlining every cent. It feels so procedural."
The lady asked users on Reddit if she was wrong to feel upset by the way her boyfriend handled the situation.
“"I think I would talk to him about this but you're not wrong for being turned off by this. It may just be a personality difference - some people like to split costs more loosey-goosey ('you get the dinner, I'll pay for the hotel') without breaking things down to exact 50-50, and other people would prefer a more even split,” one user says. "I think the red flags for him being kind of a cheapskate is asking 'what if we break up before' (implying the loss of money will be more important than the loss of relationship?) and then talking you out of a nice restaurant.”
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Another seemed to understand where her boyfriend was coming from. "I totally understand this. I work in finance and I am very particular about the computation of money,” the user said. “It's not to make you feel like you owe me this much. But it's definitely about being accountable for the money that you will be spending. I will look at this as a positive trait because you now know that he knows how to handle money."
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