#JanesWorld: I think I married the wrong person...
Imagine it's your wedding day and something does not feel right, but you walk down the aisle anyway to not disappoint anyone. This is the reality for many people...
Can you image arriving at the altar and knowing in your gut that you are marrying the wrong person?
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The fact is, when you envision what your marriage will be like, you envision perfection, you don't always consider the negative side, but then again why would you when you've decided to marry the person?!
Recently a friend's dad shared how he knew the day he walked her down the aisle that she was walking towards the wrong person. He never told his daughter what he felt, but two years later she filed for divorce.
My friend's story got me thinking and took me down a rabbit hole of personal blogs where I came across countless stories of people in the same predicament.
As I straightened the circle of roses on my head, I thought back to our first day when I’d known this man wasn’t meant for me. That feeling never left me… even on the morning that I married him.
He was sweet, sexy and financially stable, and I told myself we'd be great together. I was totally lying.
I fell in love with Bill because he seemed to be a grown-up. He worked in television and was passionate, curious and politically aware - all qualities I admired. He showered me with adoration and we were engaged within six months. But on our wedding day, I really knew nothing significant about him, only the dazzling side that he'd chosen to show to date.
Trust me, there were many more where these came from, and it broke my heart. When I met Mr T, I knew he was the one, and on our wedding day, it was solidified so I cannot even begin to imagine how these people felt. Considering that this is meant to be one of the happiest chapters in your life, there's no easy way to deal with it.
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I can't help but wonder if this problem is on the rise because of what we see on our television screens, of love that is perfect and devoid of issues. Do people only long for fairy tails but not the hard work, because marriage does take work and you must want to work with the person you have chosen.
I came across this article by The Spruce, 'Top 10 Worst Reasons to Have a Wedding and Get Married', and this is what they had to say:
- To have a dream wedding
- To get presents ( do people even do this?)
- Loneliness
- You got pressured
- All your friends are getting married
- Your ex is engaged
- The physical side
- Children
- Money
- Your parents are giving you guilt
With divorce statistics on the rise, we all need to fight for love and spread the love. Marriage is a significant step, trust me I know, but it's even greater when it's with the right person. According to Family Law in 2016, the number of divorces increased by 0,3% from 25,260 divorces granted in 2015 to 25,326 granted in 2016.
Have you ever felt that you married the wrong person or do you know someone with a story like this?