WATCH: Twitter criticises mother for her nighttime baby feeding technique
Updated | By Stacey and J Sbu
A user had simply said how motherhood isn't easy when he shared a video of a mother feeding her child and was met with heated replies!
It's important to remember that parenting is not a one-size-fits-all thing.
Every parent will figure out a routine that works for them, come up with methods of taking care of their baby that might differ from yours, and generally just make choices that fit their lifestyle and parenting style better.
It's not always up for debate or necessary for fellow parents to constantly criticise and judge one another.
And we're not talking about the general agreed-upon no-nos and such.
But if parents are feeding their baby and their child is healthy, why do others feel the need to chastise them for the method with which the baby is fed?
Breastfeeding or formula, who cares? The parents, that's who and that's all that should matter.
Over the last few years, many mothers have started speaking out about the mom-shaming they have experienced. Women are constantly being judged for their decision to either breastfeed or not (and let's not even get into breastfeeding in public), whether they are a working mom or stay-at-home mom and people are even commenting on how these moms should be spending their free time.
That's why it is sad to see the response to Twitter user E-zrael Ani's video.
E-zrael has innocently shared a video that shows a mother, father, and baby getting settled into bed.
Throughout the night, mom has to feed the baby and this happens every few hours while dad is fast asleep not aware of anything happening right beside him.
The video is captioned, 'Motherhood really ain't easy mehnn'.
😂 Motherhood really ain't easy mehnn pic.twitter.com/RsRfhqz16q
— E-zrael Ani (@EzraelAni) May 22, 2021
What seems like a pretty obvious statement, regardless of the mother's actual feeding methods or any other parenting skills, got some people in their feelings.
At first, most of the replies to the tweet were in agreement and even sympathised with the mother. Naturally many of these tweets were from women.
This video is painful to watch as I know this all too well, but her husband sleeping like a log right through is even more painful to watch. Some women really have it hard. And by the way, that 04:37 feed always seems to be the hardest. 🥺
— Yonela Matolengwe (@yonelabenmazwi) May 23, 2021
If you have a greedy kid like I did, nursing every two hours is a thing. I DO NOT miss this part of that era, but it became more spaced out for us when he got older. I we also didn’t co-sleep after four months because he is Bruce Leroy when he sleeps.
— Nicka Sewell-Smith (@neeksmith) May 23, 2021
Whoever came up with the expression "slept like a baby" must have been some ignorant man...
— Kenyan Dom (@254Dominant) May 23, 2021
But soon things turned ugly when some men felt they were being attacked, wanted to weigh in on the situation as well, and soon it was a full-blown man vs woman showdown:
Nature doesn’t cheat!! so we ain’t got breast milk to help with that but we still got other duties as a father and man to play over babies
— opara stanley (@oparastan26) May 23, 2021
Nature doesn’t cheat!! so we ain’t got breast milk to help with that but we still got other duties as a father and man to play over babies
— opara stanley (@oparastan26) May 23, 2021
Nature doesn’t cheat!! so we ain’t got breast milk to help with that but we still got other duties as a father and man to play over babies
— opara stanley (@oparastan26) May 23, 2021
While most of the people were just looking to cause some drama and were focused on which parent needs to portray which role and who is doing what wrong, others were trying to make helpful suggestions:
God bless all the responsible mothers out there. But can't the breast milk be poured into a baby feeder so the fathers can help out while she sleep too.
— Nurudeen (@AM_Nurudeen) May 23, 2021
Whole time I’m here wondering...
— BlacKinGodSon (@G_God_C) May 23, 2021
- No cot?
- No pumped milk so Dad can feed sometimes?
- No understanding that maybe the baby is this attached because you don’t let it sleep in it’s own space?
IDK, as a Father I’m just thinkin about things that make it easy for both parents.
At the end of the day, this is the moral of the story: the mother featured in the video wasn't actually complaining so any unsolicited advice and commentary was unnecessary.
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Main image courtesy of @EzraelAni/Twitter
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