REAL TALK: Are you okay with your partner telling you what to wear?
A piece of clothing that can spark some real talk with a couple...
There is a great debate on many things in a relationship, but you’d think that a simple outfit is the least of a lovebird's worries.
J Sbu and Stacey raised a great topic of discussion when we learnt that this is a source of conflict for so many couples.
Has this ever crossed your mind?
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J Sbu and Stacey have completely contrasting opinions when it comes to their feelings about what their significant other wears.
Stacey, being the fashion icon she is, loves clothes. Her style influences those around her and often she elevates her boo's outfits.
If her significant other was to comment on her clothing, she wouldn't be opposed to taking their concerns into consideration, but she does not want to get dressed in the morning and have to think about the opinions of others.
People are always going to hate and someone will always have a problem with what you wear, as long as you are happy and comfortable in you own skin. That's all that matters.
J Sbu shared his sentiments, saying that he doesn't mind if his partner wants to express herself through clothing. Although he would like to have a say from a caring perspective.
He worries about other people. He doesn't want his partner who he cares for so deeply to have to face scrutiny, cat calling, and harassment from other men.
Likewise, if something isn't flattering or if the significant other asks for comments, he will have that conversation. Something Stacey reports a lot of women will appreciate.
We understand completely where he is coming from. As long as the partners have a mutual agreement and understanding of respecting each other's choices, that's all that matters.
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We posed this question of "Are you okay with your partner telling you what to wear" to our listeners and here are some of their responses:
- I constantly ask my partner for assistance in choosing an outfit, not because I can't decide for myself, but so that she can set the mood for the evening. I wouldn't want her getting ready for 45 minutes and I come out in shorts and slops!
- My husband was much better at fashion than me - loved it when he bought me clothes and told me what to wear - I always got lots of compliments- he only ever wanted me to look my best.
- If he told me. I would be wearing nothing on a daily basis.
- If he fancies a particular outfit, fine if I feel like it too. I'll consider his opinion but I have the final say in what I wear, always have, always will.
Are bodies policed and sexualised or are people pushing their own insecurities onto other people?
Are you doing it to get a reaction out of other people or because it's what you want to wear and you're confident in yourself?
Having space to have a conversation and understanding the intention behind why you wear what you wear is what we think needs to happen in order to understand this conflict on a personal level.
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Image courtesy of Stacey and J Sbu