"My mom and I have never been close and I wish we were closer" - KZN Listener
Today's Fixer is really sad, because feeling unloved and unwanted is never the best feeling, especially when it comes from your parent - the one person that should be showering you with all the love in the world.
Is it a normal thing to feel unloved by your parents?
The Fixer, which we do every Wednesday, is all about real-life stories and you, KZN, are needed to help us navigate the scenarios and problems presented to us.
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Today, we have Tamlyn, who is faced with a dilemma of not receiving enough love from her mother. Seems impossible, right? Well, it isn't...
Some relationships are difficult to understand, but specific relationships, like mother and daughter, should happen naturally and shouldn't even be questioned, but sometimes that's not the case - just like in Tamlyn's case.
All she wants from her mother is a friendship and for her to actually show her that she loves her. That reassurance is so important yet Tamlyn feels like her mother has never given her any of these.
Read her story below:
Hi guys, I am in my late 20's. I have one sibling- there is a huge age difference. My mom and I have never been close, we do not share anything in common- I wish we were closer, I think I have heard her say she loves me once- during graduation and even that was painstakingly difficult for her. I understand its a generation thing however seeing how she parents my younger sister whom I have a 12 year age difference has been hard. It is as if she wanted to make certain that she have the mother and daughter relationship she has with her with me. I just want us to be able to hang out and have some sought of friendship- I plan on have her listen to this on the radio- hoping this will spark a conversation with her and I.
It's really difficult to find yourself in situations like these because you never want to make someone else feel like they aren't doing their part in the relationship, but when feelings are hurt, things have to be brought up so everyone finds themselves in a happy space.
Listen to Tamlyn share her story in her own words below:
KZN, do you have any advice for Tamlyn?
Have you yourself been in a situation where you find yourself being the odd one out in your family or feeling that you've never received enough love from your parents?
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