"My best friend slept with my ex-boyfriend" - KZN Listener

"My best friend slept with my ex-boyfriend" - KZN Listener

The girl code has officially been broken...

"My best friend slept with my ex-boyfriend"
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Within our society, the words "bro code" and "girl code" get used quite often.

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Amongst friends and family there are these unspoken rules that have been passed down and taught from one generation to the next (who knows where they originally come from) and to break one of these sacred rules is the highest form of treason.

Some include: not messing around with your friend's parents, never snitching on your friends, always putting your friends first, and the list goes on and on.

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One of these rules, which is probably considered one of the most important, is that you shall not hook up with a best friend's ex.

Whether this person cheated on your BFF or not, if they break up and it's over, you take your friend's side. It's the only right thing to do.

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Romantic relationships don't always last, no matter how badly we want them to, but friends are forever.

Listener Jackie* sent Stacey and J Sbu an email in which she confessed her dilemma and as you know, #TheFixer is a feature on Stacey and J Sbu's show in which the duo gives KZN listeners an opportunity to share their stories. In return, they hopefully receive advice that will help them solve their problem.

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Jackie recently met up with her ex and he had informed her of a situation that is putting her relationship with her BFF at risk.

Take a listen as Jackie tells her story:

(*name has been changed to protect the listener's identity)

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But life is more complicated than that and this is a classic grey area.

What if these two truly are meant for each other? Is she supposed to forget that this is her best friend and her ex-boyfriend and pretend like nothing ever happened so that they can continue living their best lives?

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Jackie could also not be as over her ex as she might have thought or just be hurt by the fact that she had to find out through her ex instead of her "BFF". Is it about the betrayal or are there deeper feelings at play?

This seems like a very difficult situation to navigate through considering all the different factors at play, but Stacey, J Sbu, and KZN did the best they could to offer some helpful and insightful advice to Jackie.

This is what they had to say:

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