"I’ve been married for nine years and the last three have been difficult"
Most of us are scared to admit to it out loud, but sometimes we tend to sacrifice our happiness for the sake of others, especially our family and kids. We think about their happiness first and disregard our own. But what happens when all that sacrifice and compromise just isn't worth it anymore?
A KZN listener wrote to Stacey and JSbu on Wednesday to share her story of being unhappy in her marriage, for years now.
Most of us grow up with the image of a perfect white picket fence, husband and wife and their two kids, who live happily ever after. But for some people, that is not always the case, especially when it comes to the harsh realities of life.
We can all sympathise to the fact that marriage is hard, it's work, and probably more than any other relationship, it carries a little bit more weight because often there are dependents such as children and finances that are shared.
But what happens when you fall out of love with the mother or father of your children, whom you also happen to be legally bound to?
Read what Gugulethu has to say about her relationship with her husband:
If it wasn’t for our kids, my husband and I wouldn’t be married. I’ve been married for 9 years and the last three have been difficult. My interests differ very much from my husband’s. Our connection is gone and every day is a battle. I feel if it wasn’t for the kids we would no longer be together. But having split up before, I don’t want to break his heart. We have 2 kids under the age of 15, one is under 10. I am terrified of how the divorce will affect them at such a crucial age. What should I do?
It's a very difficult situation to be in, especially when you love your children and probably still love your husband, but just not enough to still be married to him.
Kids also tend to take divorce or their parents separating very seriously and personally. Most times they feel like they are the ones to blame and no parent would ever want to their child to have such a burden on them.
But what must Gugulethu do when she is not happy and feels like she is suffocating in her marriage?
Listen to Gugulethu's story in her own words below:
So, KZN, we want to hear from you, would you stay with your spouse for the sake of your children and not ruining the fairy-tale?
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