It takes two: Your partner cheated but who is really to blame?
Some of you aren't ready to hear the truth and it shows...
If you've been cheated on, you will know that there are very few things in this world that are as devastating and soul-crushing.
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Finding out someone you loved broke your trust and disrespected your relationship by going behind your back to start another emotional or physical relationship with a different person is heartbreaking.
While you might be experiencing a world of emotions, there is the slightest chance that you might be willing to give this person a second chance. Especially if it's the first time they've cheated (That you know of...).
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According to relationship expert Maryanne Camoroto, PhD, rebuilding a relationship after infidelity is not impossible, as long as the couple acknowledges that there is a clear imbalance in the relationship. Maybe things are not as steamy as they were before or communication between the two parties has not been optimal lately.
Whatever the reason might be as to why the person cheated, they might have a "good reason". However, this does not include "I was drunk" or boredom.
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So if your partner does give you what seems like a legitimate reason for their indiscretions, you might not even blame them for giving in and cheating in the first place.
Kelly Khumalo made her opinion on this very clear recently when she called out women for fighting over cheating men.
"It’s not possible to steal a whole human being… Why is it us as women, when you find out your husband or boyfriend or situationship is cheating on you – the first thing you want to do is to go and dock the girl. Why don’t you dock the MF that you are sleeping with?”
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The people were divided and it might just be because her words struck a nerve...
Kelly might just be stating facts: why do we place the blame on the women/men our significant others become involved with when it takes two to tango?
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Would they have cheated if they were not interested in the slightest?
Stacey and J Sbu decided to ask KZN what they think of this blame game and this is what they had to say:
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