Are you still holding onto hurt from someone who didn't apologise?

Are you still holding onto hurt from someone who didn't apologise?

"Heart been broke too many times"

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We all have that one person who irks us in the pits of our stomach and leaves us with an unsavoury taste.

A lot of the time, the ends have never been tied. 

We took to our socials to ask KZN if they feel the same:

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We posed the same question to our Drive team about if there is someone who did them wrong.

Stacey Norman mentioned an ex who will not be named that didn't end things on the best note with her. 

It was a complicated situation. "He was who he was and I hoped for more, for me, but whoooshem."

Although this person is part of her story, he does not have to be a part of her ending. She has definitely moved on and doesn't want to reopen that chapter of her life.

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 Many users have shared their responses such as below:

  • I don't care about a sorry. Moving on and finding peace is so much easier when it doesn't rely on others.
  • I was waiting for an apology for years but I'm not anymore... I needed to let go NOT for anyone else but for MYSELF! Best way forward.
  • Yes and no, I'm holding onto the lesson learnt, in that I'm wiser to both the specific person(s) as well as more alert to signals of similar traits in others. I just don't let them in any critical space of my own or those I love.
  • It does not matter how hard u fall.... pumpkin....what matters is how u rise and grow...my motto in life....
  • An apology from an unrepentant person means nothing.

One user spit some facts when they told us: "The quicker you learn how to accept an apology that was never made , the quicker you realise your peace is more important than expecting a genuine apology than never comes."

Sometimes moving on means letting go of what could be. True closure comes from within. 

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Many people are dealing with a lot of pent up anger and hate. 

There are several ways in which people "let it go":

  • Projecting to others
  • Bottling it up in side
  • Letting it travel and letting it go 
  • Ignorance and temporary bliss

Our most inventive way of dealing with it was one user who shared their "sh*t it out theory" whereby they let it come through them and rather than resorting to any "unhealthy" methods, they completely let it go and "excrete" it from their life.

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We hope these responses gave you some insight into your situation to help you let go and change things up.

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