#TheHotTake: I'm a woman and I'm sick of having female friends
We got an email from a listener in Maritzburg who says she is
done being friends with other women.
Hi Thandolwethu
I'm a 26-year-old woman and I work as a sales assistant for a mill in Maritzburg.
2018 was a very difficult year for me and I took stock of my priorities and where things had been going wrong and I realised for as long as I've been alive most of the bad things in my life have been connected with my female friends.
As a resolution for 2019 I've decided to cut out all my female friends and instead spend time nurturing the friendships I have with guys.
I find that guys are more easy going, they are not judgemental and they always give practical advice.
Most of the friendships I have been in with women have at some point turned toxic. Women have judged me for my looks and I've been backstabbed and gossiped on so many times I can't even count. And the more I talk to other women they also have similar experiences. I used to think that this was the trade-off for having a clique of friends but honestly it’s no longer worth it to me.
Women do not extend themselves for other women and they spend so much time complaining. I have extended myself so many times and not gotten the same treatment back.
I have found that my inner peace has increased since I've cut them out if my life and I honestly don't see myself having the time or patience to be friends with another woman in the future. I strongly recommend that other woman do the same and keep things moving.
Am I the only one who feels this way? Do other women think it's better to be friends with guys.