Should I pay lobola for my white fiancee?
A listener is not sure whether or not to pay lobola for his partner and needs some advice.
Listen as East Coasters debate whether or not Anonymous should pay lobola or not.
Hi Damon and the team
So I've been with my partner for three years and we got engaged two weeks ago. She is white and I am black and we've started talking about making arrangements for the wedding.
But now she has thrown a plot twist in the mix.
She is insisting that I pay lobola for her. I wasn't expecting that she'd want that cause it's not part of her culture.
She says that if I don't pay lobola, it shows that I don't respect her or take the relationship seriously and my family might not except her.
I've tried to explain to her that it has nothing to do with my feelings for her but rather because she is from a different culture it's not compulsory.
Also, I'm very skeptical of what her family might do during negotiations cause they don't know our culture. What if they do something offensive and hte negotiations collapse. I don't know what to do, please help?
Anonymous, somewhere in KZN.
Should anonymous pay lobola?