Wife defends her 'small' engagement ring in this Facebook post

Rachel Pedersen, 27, shared a picture of her 1/4 carat diamond ring and revealed that her friends and family often ask when she is going to get an 'upgrade'?

This is what she had to say:

''Yes, I know that my wedding ring is small.

Friends and family often ask me when I'm going to have it "upgraded".... After all, it doesn't represent the level of success we are achieving.

I've even had one person say "you could wear a bigger ring for important events, so people don't think you're not successful."

Wait a minute.... Since when did the size of someone's ring become an indication of success?!

For me, the ring is SO much more.

My ring symbolizes a whirlwind, storybook, "make you sick" love story.... It reminds me of how my husband and I met and fell at in love in one night at a Perkin's diner.

He worked as a window washer, and I was a single mother.

One short week later, and we professed our love to one another, him leading the conversation.

We couldn't stop dreaming of our future, so excited to have a baby, buy a house, and fall asleep together every night.

We couldn't wait for the future. So we didn't.

13 days after meeting, we eloped. I didn't even THINK about a ring until my husband surprised me before the ceremony. He drained his savings to gift me with a small token of his love.

I say small, only because it pales in comparison with how big his love is, even now, after years of marriage.

That, my friends, is success to me.''

I can totally relate with this story. I had a very similar experience. A lot like this lady!

Our love story is super romantic and was a universally connected meeting.

Mike and I had been told about each other by a mutual friend for years but at the time I lived in Cape Town and he lived in JHB. For years we ran in the same friendship circle but never met.

The night we eventually met, however, it was an instant connection and we have been together ever since.

On the day of our engagement, Mike had met and asked my parents and sourced the perfect 'Jane' ring.

That night while I was on air he arrived outside the studio window and held up the words:

"Will you marry me?"

I nearly died!

The ring was so me. An offset onyx on a silver band with the words 'remember me always' inscribed on the inside. It was made by a Durban designer and fit me like a glove.

For our big day we had another Durban designer create two bands that clipped onto either side of the engagement band, set with a matching vinyl strips in each.

I remember very clearly while at the gym one of those high-brow Durban mummies came bounding over to my treadmill and asked to see the ring and didn't even try and hide her disappointment. "Is that it?" she gasped.

I felt both angry and sad for her all in one. She is definitely of the school of thought that your wedding ring is a status symbol and a sign of success. For us, success is something you feel, not see - its way more profound and deeply rooted.

Ten years on and that symbol of love and dedication is locked away with other keep-safe items like the children's hospital bands, the ring the box came in, love letters, and photographs.

When Mike's late mum died, she left me her two bands, I love them and wear them daily.

Granted they are flashy, but they feel no different to the original ring of union. For me I am all about the meaning and have never been lured by a price tag.

Last year on our anniversary we went and got little ink mementos done.

I have a little heart tattoo on my wedding finger and Mike has a little anchor on his.

Anchored love, babe, through thick and thin. Marriage isn't hard work when you are married to the right person. That's success and beyond to me.