Common reasons why people break up
What are some of the reasons relationships don't work out? Here is what tweeps had to say...
Over 85% of dating ends up in break-ups, according to Hellen Chen, the author of 'Hellen Chen's Love Seminar: the Missing Manual that will Make Your Relationship Last'.
The goal of many people entering into a relationship is to make it work, but there are certain things that can bring an end to that relationship.
Popular Twitter user Barry Roux asked: "Why did you and your ex break up? Don’t skip we wanna read yours stories", and scores of people took to the social media platform to share what made them end their relationships.
Let's look at some of the common answers:
Cheating
Cheating has destroyed a lot of relationships.
That is because trust is an integral part of a relationship, so once it has been tampered with, it affects other aspects as well.
I cheated, she caught me and I apologized...thought she forgave me but she cheated back just so that I can hurt too...I found that very dump and I told her to never talk to me again
— Swag_Niqqa_ICE (@Niqqa_Ice) March 9, 2022
Soon after college🎓 she got a job then cheated on me with a guy that work with her when I found out she dumped me😭..1year after college I got a job better than hers bought myself a car ngabuyelana naye ngamithisa omunye ngalobola mawengane yami when she found out I dumped her😉
— Sibusisomgobhozy (@Sibusis66021015) March 9, 2022
She cheated on me with a truck driver,she said she felt happy when in the truck,If I want her I better buy a truck or drive one ,I don't have money to get a licence let alone buy a truck. Sis
— Pyjamas.. (@MothupiSamson) March 9, 2022
She met a truck driver because of better salary then the guy do a hit an run, then she came back to apologize to me but unfortunately the door was close.
— Mr Series🇿🇦🇺🇸🇬🇧🇨🇦 (@docter27) March 9, 2022
Religious reasons
The moral compass of an individual is defined by their spirituality; it is the essence of their being.
While many people respect each other's beliefs, others struggle to manage their religious differences.
This can lead to a break-up.
I didnt fit the church wife type. He tried his best to transform me into it but the streets kept calling and eventually i answered. pic.twitter.com/RnWNSf3G0l
— Kendall💋 (@sweeet_kendy) March 9, 2022
Our break up was due to religious differences she thought she was God and I did not.
— Cee Gazi (@Clemenc52544349) March 9, 2022
He loved traditional healers a lot so one day the sangoma convinced him to tell me that I needed cleansing.. Kanti they were going to steal my spiritual gift🚮 I never looked back
— Andile🌈💕💗 (@andile_gasela) March 9, 2022
She used Traditional meds for me, “Bheka Mina Gedwa” found them in hidden Black plastic behind wardrobe.. 🤦🏽
— Ben Tsunke MozDeep (@BenTsunke) March 9, 2022
Not being compatible
He said I don't listen and talk too much. He doesn't want to be with another man 🙄
— Amu N (@SammyIsie) March 9, 2022
Money Issues
Finances are one of the top three reasons for separation, according to statistics.
This can occur due to poor money management, putting pressure on your partner to contribute financially, and living beyond your means.
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I helped her get a Job in Randburg,took her to the interview, when she got the job gave her money for transport,when she got paid on the 25th of her first month she realised i didn't match her new high standards and she dumped me!
— MfoKaSthukzin👨🏾✈️ (@ThulaniMncedi) March 9, 2022
Once they get better paychecks than yours you are suddenly not appealing their standards 🚮
— Sibusisomgobhozy (@Sibusis66021015) March 9, 2022
Sexual incompatibility
READ: How to reach sexual fulfilment as a woman
“Sex is a glue that bonds a
couple together, and if it’s done right, it brings joy and intimate connection
to the relationship,” says marriage counsellors Dr Didah and Phanthi Mokwena.
Scores of people said bad sex in their relationship caused strife and resulted in them having to call it quits.
When it was time to have tlo tlof🍆🍑💦i felt as if i was riding a bicycle without a chain..kore the pots couldn't be didn't 😭😭 pic.twitter.com/pRYMlau2cD
— tebatsontoule (@mkhandawire23) March 9, 2022
Mina I am a hard-core sex addict so she was never in a position to handle the pressure in doing it anywhere, anytime as long as the opportunity arises so she ended up dumping me pic.twitter.com/z22NqMTDFL
— Mr Mathibe Sir (@JakeMathibe) March 9, 2022
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